After hearing Oprah Winfrey’s 2025 motivational speech on the importance of focusing on yourself, I couldn’t help but reflect on how her words resonated deeply with me.

Oprah reminded us that prioritizing ourselves isn’t about selfishness; it’s about self-preservation, self-discovery & self-empowerment. For us in the LGBTQ+ community, this truth feels especially powerful. So often, we’re conditioned to put others’ comfort above our own, to minimize our shine to avoid making waves. But it’s time to prioritize ourselves, unapologetically.

Here’s how I’ve learned to apply this mindset to my life:

Our community’s (LGBTQ+) journey is filled with unique challenges, from navigating identity to carving out spaces of belonging. Prioritizing yourself doesn’t mean ignoring others; it means choosing to put your growth, health and happiness first. Surround yourself with people who uplift and celebrate you. Seek out communities that understand your struggles and amplify your victories.

I started by asking myself: What makes me truly happy? What do I need to feel whole? Once I identified these, I made them non-negotiable. Whether it’s therapy, fitness, art or time spent with my chosen family, honouring my needs has laid the foundation for a fulfilled life.

Respecting yourself means setting boundaries—a skill many of us are still learning. I’ve learned to stop apologizing for living authentically. If a relationship, conversation or environment drains my energy or denies my truth, I’ve realized it’s okay to say no. Remember, “No.” is a complete sentence.

In our community, boundary-setting often means protecting ourselves from outdated beliefs or harmful narratives. It’s not our job to educate everyone, nor to justify our existence. By setting limits, I’ve created space for the relationships and experiences that nurture my spirit.

This one’s been a game-changer! I’ve learned that I’m not obligated to explain myself to anyone who isn’t invested in my happiness. Protecting my peace has meant limiting exposure to environments that feel unsafe or stepping away from social media accounts that provoke unnecessary stress.

Instead, I pour my energy into what fuels me. I spend time in spaces where my identity is celebrated—not merely tolerated. My peace is my power and I guard it fiercely.

Stepping into your purpose starts with recognizing the strength that’s always been within you. For me, this has meant rewriting the narratives I’ve been given about who I should be.

My story, my identity, my love—they’re powerful. When I embraced my truth, I found that I could inspire others to do the same. Whether it’s advocating for equal rights, pursuing a dream or simply living openly, I’ve learned that wielding my power can create ripples of change. Celebrate that power within you.

Honesty has been one of the most freeing practices in my life. People may not always like the truth, but they’ll respect your courage for speaking it. This applies to coming out, expressing your needs or simply standing firm in your beliefs.

For many of us, honesty is an act of resistance and a statement of pride. Speaking my truth hasn’t always been easy, but it’s been worth it. And even if others struggle to accept it, I’ve found that my courage inspires respect—if not in them, then in myself.

This has been a rallying cry for me: turning pain into power. Many of us in the LGBTQ+ community know the ache of rejection, loss or discrimination. But those scars? They’re proof of resilience.

Channelling pain into power doesn’t mean dismissing your hurt. It’s about acknowledging it, processing it and using it as fuel for growth. I’ve written my story, built the life I’ve dreamed of and advocated for change. Every challenge I’ve overcome has prepared me for this unstoppable version of myself.

Why Focusing on Yourself Matters in 2025

Focusing on yourself isn’t selfish. It’s about self-preservation, self-discovery and self-empowerment. For us (in the LGBTQ+ community), these are radical acts of love—for ourselves and each other.

By prioritizing your needs, setting boundaries, protecting your peace & stepping into your power, you’re creating a life that reflects your true self. And when you thrive, you pave the way for others to do the same.

Let 2025 be the year you embrace your journey, unapologetically. The world needs the fullest, boldest version of you.

《☆》Sending Love  Rheece, Thijs & TheLegends@ThePackUnderwear